“My name is James and I was adopted, but, it doesn’t define me, it’s just part of my identity.
I have the same kind of relationship with my (adoptive) parents that most of my non-adopted friends have with theirs. I grew up with a sibling who wasn’t adopted – he is my parents’ biological son – and it was a great experience. Today we’re the best of friends and I’m godparent to his children – an honour I hope to repay when I become a father myself.
I was lucky. I was adopted within a year of being born to a young woman who didn’t have the capacity to care for me herself. Without a quick adoption I’d have ended up in long-term care, and services back in the 1970s were, I believe, a far cry from those offered by councils like Lambeth today. But no matter how good the services on offer for so-called “looked-after” children (i.e. those in local authority or other agency care), I believe that every child deserves to be brought up by loving parents. I firmly believe it’s the best solution for children who – for whatever reason – can’t be adequately cared for by birth parents.
I now want to become a father through adoption. How could I not? There are children here in Lambeth who are waiting for the kind of loving home I know I could provide. I’m lucky that my fiancé also wants to adopt with me. So, a new adoption journey for me is about to begin.
I’d also urge others to begin their own adoption journey. Here in Lambeth it’s a sad fact that there are large numbers of boys from black ethnic minority backgrounds who can wait years before being adopted. It breaks my heart. These are boys who have a whole lifetime ahead of them. Their potential is enormous, if given the right opportunities. Opportunities that, I believe, stem from being raised in a stable and loving home.”
You can find out more about adopting in Lambeth through the website or call 0300 222 5935 for an info pack.